Welcome to India Divorce Assistance
Divorces -today there is the perception that it is easy. Quickly in-and-out of court and that is it. This perception comes from the country's divorce rate being so high, but the reality is still that it is a very ugly business. It might be true that the courts grant divorces much easier than in the past, but the emotional trauma between the couples is still very real. Not to mention what the children go through.
The first factor is the dividing of the estate. Without going into all the different pre-nuptial agreements, as a Divorce Attorney, I can safely say that the largest contributing factor to emotional trauma within the family is the division of the estate. This is largely due to the fact that the couples usually go into a 'spite' mode. They will do anything, to make the life as difficult for the other as possible. Instead of being mature and rational, each party will absolutely not budge on what they think is their part of the estate. This, despite my advice indicating that their share of the estate is not so big.
They think that they make the life of the other person hell, but instead they only do the same to themselves. I've seen client's divorce cases go on for years. What they don't see is that there is no one to blame but themselves. You know, they will come to you and they won't budge about what they want from the estate. Then they decide to budge, but then they hear a rumour that the other cheated on them way before they initially thought; so they change their mind. Then they get creative and think of a new way to be difficult. This just before they might even get paranoid and wonder why nobody can find all the secret bank accounts of the other party. So most of these cases go on. Go on from months to years. One has to remember that this is years of your own life that is being thrown into the water. Years that you can not date anybody new, years that you can not really earn something, because this can change your claim, years that the children (a lot of the times) don't have fair contact with the other party. Years that nobody get on with their life.
First and Subsequent Steps Before You Navigate to Other Pages
Every marriage hits a rough spot occasionally. And while not every marriage should attempt to be salvaged, a great many more than are saved today should and can be through concerted efforts. So, the first step in avoiding divorce is recognizing that the fact that you have come to this point in your relationship is not unusual, but it does indicate that something must change if it is to survive. But before you go through a mental litany of everything that needs to change as justification for giving up, realize that there is help out there and if you are willing to put in the time and commitment, you can make your marriage work even when it seems that you and your partner have reached the end of the road.
Marriage Counselling Marriage counselling can be a very effective instrument in putting a marriage that seems to be going down the divorce path back onto the right track. Counselling helps couples to identify the root of their marital problems and solve them with a little help from a professional counsellor trained in mediation. Finding an effective marriage counsellor, however, requires a bit of work on your part. Many counsellors will offer a free consultation. Ask for recommendations from friends, but in part you should call 10 or so counsellors, ask for their price packages ahead of time and then schedule consultations with the 3 or 4 that meet your pricing needs. Make sure that when you go into these consultations you grade the effectiveness on how BOTH you and your spouse feel about the individual.
There are also many self-help tools available in the market today. There are some excellent books and articles on how to make marriages work, how to re-ignite the spark in a relationship and how a few simple steps can bring back the love in a relationship that had turned hateful. Both partners can get a lot of inspiration, advice and ideas on how to make relationships work from such books and articles. You can even find help when you think there is infidelity in your marriage. There are books and articles out there, which tell you why people cheat or stray out of line and what you can do about it.
The common thread in all of these self help guides is communication and understanding. By making an effort to understand where your spouse is coming from, and them where you are, and then making compromises and communicating, most marital problems will become alleviated.
Then there are many resorts that are specially designed to create an ambience which is conducive to romance. These vacation packages are easy to find and require only that you be on the look out. The point of these resorts is to reinvigorate a relationship by introducing some of the passion and spontaneity that over time can be watered down by obligations and daily responsibilities. These events attempt to eliminate outside stresses so that you can focus on your spouse, and in so doing rekindle the love you feel for one another.
All in all, if you are willing to put in your best efforts to stop your marriage from slipping away, there is now help at hand and you need not have to fight alone. By utilizing the tools of counsellors, self help and resorts you can go a long way to giving your marriage the best chance for survival. But beyond survival, these tools can help ensure you a happy lifelong relationship.